Loving yourself often feels like the toughest thing you can do. You might think that empowerment is something that happens to other women, not you. But that’s not the case. Here are three things you can do to start loving yourself today.
Speak to someone
When you’re stuck in a negative mindset, it can feel almost impossible to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You can’t see outside of your own situation, and you feel as though there’s no way out of your rut.
But simply by speaking to someone else, you introduce a second voice to break that negative cycle in your own head. You get a fresh perspective, someone who can show you that it doesn’t have to be this way.
It could be a friend or a relative, or even a colleague. You could even go professional and find a coach like Orion’s Method, a wellness expert who helps women feel free and fulfilled, helping them to live their best life. By simply talking to someone else, you can break out of your own negative thoughts and start making positive changes in your life.
Do things that scare you (and surprise others)
This is a cliché, but it’s true as hell.
All our lives, we do things that people expect of us or to make others happy. We wear the same clothes, listen to the same music, go to the same places — it’s a part of being human.
But breaking out of that hold and doing something unexpected, something that scares you and surprises others, is one of the most liberating things you can do.
It could be as simple as buying a piece of clothing that you’ve always been too nervous to wear. Or it could be as big as taking a skydiving course. Forget about what other people might think. If you want to do it, do it. You only get one life, so make it yours.
Never just settle
When you’re at your lowest ebb, you rarely think you deserve better. Your mindset is “this is as good as it gets”, and you’ll settle for whatever you’ve got.
It could be a partner who takes you for granted, a friend who treats you badly, or a job where you’re not appreciated. You think: sure, it’s not a great situation, but why aspire to anything better when you don’t deserve it?
That’s the wrong mindset to have. No matter how bad things get, you should never, ever settle. If there is a negative presence in your life — a partner, a friend, a job — you should always aspire to better.
So cut the deadweight and aim for better. Settling is for houses and Pilgrims — not for you.
Empowerment isn’t something that happens to other people. It’s within your grasp, and the three ideas above can help you on your journey to true empowerment today.