Your boyfriend or husband is getting excited to go to a bachelor party. He went to Groomsshop and bought the perfect gift for the groomsmen and the party is approaching.
Only, you’re not so excited about him going.
You have been counting the days down with anxiety. Will he behave himself? Will he do anything that he will regret later? You really hope that there will not be any strippers involved.
The worst part is the feeling that you have no idea what it will be like and have no control over it.
What can you do?
Here are some tips to help you get through this night or weekend where boys will be boys.
Ask some preliminary questions
Try to understand exactly what the event is going to be like. In a non confrontational way, of course. You may find that the party isn’t going to be a hedonistic and debauched sending off of his friend. It could be something different like an axe throwing party, or a weekend golfing.
Not everybody wants to do the Vegas stripper and gambling thing, after all.
What if he is going to do the Vegas stripper and gambling thing? Read on.
Trust him
One of the reasons you are in a relationship with your man is because you trust him. If you trust him, then you should know that he is going to make good decisions.
Will there be alcohol involved that may influence how things go? Will they be going to a strip joint? Just think about his usual behavior and know that even if they do the Vegas thing it doesn’t mean he is going to cheat on you or get into trouble. If he is generally a responsible guy then he probably will be at the bachelor party, too.
Don’t stalk him on social
It is very tempting to want to see his every move on social media. But keep one thing in mind. You know that everybody exaggerates on social. They either love to show off how awesome their life is when you know that they don’t actually live that way. Or they like to shock people and stir things up.
You might see some questionable pictures and think the worst when he might just be showing off a bit and it isn’t an accurate portrayal of what is actually happening.
Don’t ask him to check in multiple times per day
There is nothing wrong with wanting to stay in touch so you know everything is ok. It is quite another to expect him to call you every few hours or so to make sure he isn’t getting into trouble.
This will come across as not only controlling but also that you don’t trust him. Either way he interprets this demand will make him feel resentful and will likely cause some friction. It could ruin his night out, or cause a fight when he gets back.