Every marriage has good times and bad times but you ultimately hope that your good times outweigh the bad times, right? Of course. No one enters a marriage with intentions on ending it in three to five years… you took vows to love your spouse “till death do you part.” Although you took those vows, the marriage ends up getting to a point of no return, leaving you to ask yourself how did you get to this place of unhappiness.
Was it something you did? Something you said? Why isn’t this marriage worth salvaging? These are the questions that float in your mind as you are forced to endure a divorce that you don’t want. Although you may not want this divorce, your spouse does, so that means you have to be strong and find the best lawyer around to help you through this difficult time.
The Transition
Time will eventually go on and you will have to move forward with your life. It’s not going to be the easiest thing in the world to do, especially if you’ve been with your spouse for years. There will be a lot of changes you’ll have to get used to. For instance, your divorce may leave you living alone. It will seem scary initially but eventually, you will be able to make the most out of living alone.
Going from being a family to being a party of one, also has an effect on your mental health as well. People who endure divorce suffer from depression. Sometimes the weight and pressure you’ve experienced, and even put on yourself, can take a major toll on your mental health. When you realize this, you need to seek help.
Divorce may seem like the end of the world but it’s really not, especially when the divorce wasn’t brought on by you. We’re going to take a look at how you can embrace all aspects of your divorce even when you don’t want the marriage to end.
Change Your Divorce Story
Once you found out you were getting divorced from your spouse, you had to tell everyone the story of what happened, how it happened, and how you don’t know what you’re going to do with your life, making everybody feel sorry for you. Now, that’s not saying that what happened to you isn’t sad but on your journey to moving forward, you’ll never fully move forward if you continue to wallow in the sadness of what happened.
The next time someone asks you what happened, try changing the story up a bit. You don’t have to lie about what happened but instead of talking about how you don’t know what you’re going to do with yourself, try speaking about how you get to start a new life and you’re excited to see what the future will bring to you.
Come to the Realization That Your Ex Actually Helped You Out
Yes your divorce seems like the end of the world and you won’t ever find love again but the truth is, you will and to be honest, you didn’t need to be with them any longer anyway. Just think about it. Would you really want to stay married to someone who didn’t want to be married to you any longer or who fell out of love with you? Of course not! Your spouse really did you a favor!
Get Back to Yourself
Being in a marriage, you’d be lying to yourself if you said you didn’t make sacrifices and give up some of your dreams, aspirations, and even elements of your personality for the sanctity of your marriage. Certain behaviors and tendencies you may have had while you were single are just not acceptable in a marriage and because of that, you had to give those up. Now that you’re back single again, it’s the perfect time to revisit those things that brought you pure enjoyment and happiness.
The Road May Be Bumpy but It’s a Journey Worth Taking
Some people compare divorce to death and if you think about it, it’s the death of a marriage essentially. It can take the world as you know it and flip it upside down but divorce isn’t always as bad as it may seem.
Sure, you’ll no longer be with someone that you’ve known for quite some time but at the end of the day, depending on what brought on the divorce, you have to ask yourself if that’s someone you really want to be with now that you know the truth. Nine times out of ten, your divorce will save you from a really bad situation… once you realize that, that’s when you’ll really be able to embrace your divorce and appreciate it for what it is.