When your husband is always away for work, it can put a lot of pressure on you and your relationship. You constantly have to juggle between your job and the household duties which are intensified by the absence of your husband. Your responsibilities increase because now you’re both the father and mother of your children and 24 hours seem too little for you to complete all your chores.
This constant pressure and burden of responsibilities can build up feelings of anger, bitterness, frustration, hostility, and disloyalty over time. However, with a little understanding, empathy and a lot of talking about the problems and issues can be controlled and you can live happily.
Start saying thank you for every little thing
Don’t keep a record of what you do for your husband, such as ‘I cleaned the kids’ room, so now you clean the lounge’. ‘I left my job because we had to move for your new job, so you leave yours for mine’. This is something that’s childish, and it only weakens the trust. Instead, you should keep a record of all the good things your husband has done and does for you and be thankful to them. This way they will also do the same.
Be honest and say sorry
If you made a mistake that you’re ashamed of, don’t hide it from your partner instead own it and let them know. Don’t be afraid of saying sorry. Lying about one thing leads to more lies and the truth eventually comes out when you least expect it. And when it does, it damages your relationship and weakens the trust.
Talk it out beforehand
In order to avoid complications and festering anger and frustration, it is important that you know all the details regarding your partner’s work travel such as how long will your husband be gone? How often will he be away? This will help you understand your husband and why his decision to go away for work is important for the family.
For instance, the job abroad might have a higher pay that is required to meet the expenditures of the household, or it may enhance your husband’s career.
A lot of communication is key
When your husband is away, you should try to communicate with him whenever it’s possible. Try to get in touch at least once a day, even if it’s just through text. Although call and face time is preferred. Your busy routine may become a barrier but taking out time to talk to your husband and updating him about what’s going on at home is necessary. Taking out 10 minutes isn’t that hard.
Be optimistic
According to experts, some marriages become stronger when one partner is away for long periods of time. There is no doubt that with kids it’s very important that the father is also at home, but there are many unexpected benefits of your partner being away, for example, you both get an opportunity to miss each other and realize the importance of one another in your life.
The husband’s duty
Until now I had written about the key steps the mother can take to stay happy but if the husband does not cooperate things will become very difficult. The husband should make sure he stays in touch with all that is happening in the house so that if there is a problem, he can sort it out.
For example, financial support expected from your husband should be reliable and predictable. Money transfer companies like Ria Money Transfer is one way to keep the financial support available for long distance couples. Also when one partner is away, the routine at home usually changes, and the husband should understand that and accept the changes when he comes back instead of disturbing it.
Conclusion
Mutual understanding, trust, loyalty and appreciation for one another is key to a successful marriage especially when one partner is away for work. By following the above-mentioned pieces of advice, you can nature a stronger bond with your husband and stay happy.
About the Author
Sharon Kalipai is a contributing writer at Sparkwebs LLC, a Digital and Content Marketing Agency in Denver, CO. When she’s not writing, she loves to travel, dance and read books.