According to one survey, a staggering number of 30 to 60 percent of all married people have an affair at one point in their life. While some may claim that the reason behind this is the fact that the temptation was too great, this is more commonly a symptom of a problem than its root. The main reason is the fact that their flame towards the partner has started to fade and it needs to be ignited once more.
For all those stuck in a rut, be aware that you are at a crossroads in your relationship, so here are some tips on how to spice up your intimate life in order to save your relationship.
1. Role playing
The most obvious choice for reinvigorating your relationship is role playing. There are many different scenarios and they go from things as vanilla as common striptease to something a bit more daring such as role playing a call-girl or a gigolo.
For first-timers, however, the best entry-level idea would be to try something as simple as a rendezvous with a stranger. You and your partner can meet at an unknown location and pretend that you are meeting for the very first time. This is where your mutual past can come off as a great advantage. Over the course of years, your significant other must have left some hints of what their fantasy lover would look like. Well, for the night you can adopt all these fictional traits for your persona.
2. Start introducing toys
Another idea you might want to consider is introducing some toys to your love life. Like with the role playing, you need to start with something basic like a blindfold, wrist ties, massage oil or a feather tickler. Once you are more comfortable with all of this, you might want to pass on to something a bit more interesting like a vibrating ring, hands-free vibrator or the amazing c-shaped We Vibe. The choice is all yours.
3. Take a trip
One of the things that might have added to this sense of boredom is constantly having sex on the same locations (probably even in the same positions). In order to spice things up a bit, you might want to take a trip to an exotic destination and see if this is enough to start your own little sexual renaissance. It might also be a good idea to take a sneak peek at some new positions from Kamasutra and see if there is anything that you would like to introduce to your intimate life. All in all, you have a fair share of research ahead of you. This time, for a change, putting theoretical knowledge to practice won’t be an arduous work.
4. Try sexting
Finally, one of the greatest drawbacks of having a intimate relationship with a long-term partner is the fact that after a while, you lose that sense of anticipation and desire you had at the beginning. In order to bring at least some of this flame back, you might want to start sending each other provocative messages throughout the day. Imagine being at work and receiving a not-so-subtle message from your significant other. You might start counting hours, minutes and seconds until you return home. This alone can be enough to reignite some passion that has been lost over the course of years due to a lack of spontaneity.
Conclusion
Of course, the ideas listed above (daring as they may be) are still considered to be on the safer side. In the very end, although this may sound a bit cliché, the most important thing about spicing up your intimate life, is to actually start talking openly to each other. Only in this way can you know with 100 percent certainty what your partner is or isn’t comfortable with. Who knows, you might get surprised by the person you spent decades with. All in all, it is definitely worth the shot.